For some reason, I have the urge to tell W that although I do not want a D, I do not want her to be unhappy and if she is truly happy without me, then I will not stand in her way. Also, I would like to ask her to promise me if she changes her mind to tell me.
Well it's not about pride. It's about not pursuing and pushing her away. That's still relationship talk, and is generally a no-no. Honestly (and I only think this because I've done this too) I think you're still thinking along the lines of, "If I just come up with the right combination of words, she will magically see the light...and if I don't get them out there before it's too late, I will have blown my chance."
Which means you still have a lot of detaching to do, and you're not fully accepting that it's not about you. I don't think it hurts to say some of those things, but I don't think you really mean them. If she changes her mind, she will tell you.
Keep it to "just the facts, ma'am" unless she explicitly and definitively says she wants to work on the M and suspend the D.
