dday, attempting to find clarity

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Thanks guys. There is always the .00001% chance that my standing up for myself may help to bring her out of the fog.

Who knows. I wouldnt worry about it.

Most of the changes I proposed were minor, a couple words here and there. The one she will scream about is that I want bought out. It will add to her debt, but that isn't my problem. She wants me to just give her everything. That isn't fair to my kids either, I have them 3 days a week and they need a nice place to live too.

Why would she POSSIBLY deserve to have 100% equity in the house? Let her scream.

For some reason, I have the urge to tell W that although I do not want a D, I do not want her to be unhappy and if she is truly happy without me, then I will not stand in her way.

Here's the thing. Of COURSE shes going to say shes happy right now. So telling her this right NOW is a total waste. It will just make you look weak. Until she really looks inside, she isnt going to "be truly happy". She thinks happiness is something you can FIND, not something you CULTIVATE. Say this with your actions; your words will only push her away.

Also, I would like to ask her to promise me if she changes her mind to tell me. Forget pride or whatever. I would think that she would, the old W would, if nothing more than for the sake of the boys.

That rope getting heavy?

Why make her promise that? By the time she might be ready, who knows where you will be. If she WANTS to be with you, she will seek it out. Dont worry.