And it appears sudden to me because we just moved here 3 months ago and were so happy and excited to be here. Such a welcome change from where we were. We were selling our house to get rid of debt and start our life anew. We bought me a new car just two months ago, we drove around and looked at houses and talked about the future. Sure there were some stressful moments in there...moving is HARD! But he seemed to be so happy.
My XW and I moved into a new house together after FINALLY leaving a terrible house we had been in almost 10 years. We werent even there 6 months before she dropped the bomb. I had no idea it was coming. I too thought our marriage was strong. But.....here I am. Right?
You mention this:
Originally Posted By: KMP
I have been strong through his depression, and unemployment and career moves etc.
Your perception is that you were a strong wife, a good wife, providing things to meet his needs. How would HE perceive this time? How would HE see this time when he couldnt provide for his family?
My point is not that you were WRONG in what you did or didnt do during the hard times. My point is that your view of it isnt necessarily the ONLY view. And to him, the only view that matters is his.
With that, all you can do is keep working on you and becoming the person only a fool would leave. The more you focus on him, the more energy and time you will waste.
