Now what?

[melweb]

Azzork, I understand and appreciate your analogy. I like it.

I didn't mean to imply that I thought my changes would magically change everything in two weeks, because sadly, I know the lake has been freezing for some time. Like 8 years ago it was the Titanic iceberg that almost sunk our marriage. But it seemed to have thawed, then life threw us a couple more icebergs, and now here we are sinking again.
I guess I meant more like- of all the things we have been through together, and have stood by each other, and supported each other. I have been strong through his depression, and unemployment and career moves etc. I thought our marriage was stronger. And I am just sad he doesn't feel like our marriage--or me, is worth working through this.
And it appears sudden to me because we just moved here 3 months ago and were so happy and excited to be here. Such a welcome change from where we were. We were selling our house to get rid of debt and start our life anew. We bought me a new car just two months ago, we drove around and looked at houses and talked about the future. Sure there were some stressful moments in there...moving is HARD! But he seemed to be so happy.