It makes complete sense she would just want you to sink into oblivion. Having you succeed and do fine without her is a reminder of a few things that's goes directly against what's driving her actions. That she knows who you are, that you will never change and that you are at fault for everything thats wrong in her life.

One of those remimders being you can live completely fine without her which shows your not dependent on her. Another is that because you can survive without her it's showing what les to the breakdown od thr M isnt jsut about you, but her also. If you were all of the problem when you separate she would be happy and you miserable. Oh the irony when things end up being the opposite and that translates to anger for her. Anger pores out anytime something reminds them they are at fault and maybe they f'ed up. I remember it well with my W months ago, like she was jealous I was not only surviving but thriving without her. She resisted the insane spew as she knew it only made her look worse because I didn't react at all to it. I could still feel the anger bleed out of every pore in her body at times.

You're doing well, just keep living your life and don't react to her testing or spew like she expects you to. Coming from a place of strength and love showing her she's leaving the man only a fool would leave.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be