In the UK - need help (pt15)

[Huddy]

Well, three nights to spend in the same house together and the spew machine has gone in to overdrive.

Yesterday, I bought a new TV/Freesat box/sound bar for my flat. I didn't tell W I was doing it but have had to bring it in the house so it doesn't get damp. That set off the first spew. 'How did you pay for that?', 'Have you put it on the credit card' etc. I could have been hard and told her it was none of her business, but I told her I'd got it on interest free offer at the shops. I can pay it off with next months pay packet.

Today, W had asked if she could see where my flat was, so she knew how to get there. Fine, makes sense, agreement made to do so after I come in from work. Instead, I arrive home to a full scale assault about 'why have you taken the pictures out of my [sic] bedroom?'. Well, I haven't and I reminded her it was my bedroom as well. That got the eyes rolling in her head and she repeated it was her bedroom. I then pointed out where the pictures were (they were no more than four foot away from her). She then made further accusations about me moving stuff (I haven't, but what's the point in arguing) and then went in to a strop - 'I'm not going to see where your flat is'. Fine, I'll take my shoes off and have something to eat then.

I suppose you could say my W doesn't like me standing up for myself. I have always played the apeaser; trying to make sure W doesn't get upset or that things are just right for her, but no more. I am not being treated like sh1t anymore. I told her that and that she needed to show some respect in fromt of the children. Cue more eye rolling. Rebellion is burning brightly in my W right now and I really don't recognise her at all. Her mannerisms, her actions are from somebody I would never have contemplated being with. I really do wish I understood what is going on her brain.