Now what?

[melweb]

So H came home yesterday from a trip to see his buddies. He was in less than a stellar mood. Normally this would have put me on the defensive, and return his bad mood with bad mood, but I did not let it bother me at all, kept my spirits high and went about what I was doing. He volunteered that he was tired, it was a longer trip than he thought, and was probably not a good idea as he is travelling for work this week, 5 hours away. I said "Hmmmmm--its going to a long week then."
He went to take a nap, and was in a better mood when he woke up.

I had made turkey noodle soup for dinner which he declined to have at dinner time , but a few hours later when I was getting out of the shower, he sought me out to tell me my soup was good. He has done this several times in the past few weeks since BD, as he usually gets home after we have all had dinner, but I make him a plate.

I am trying not to get my hopes up, but hope is all I have right now. Like someone mentioned, 8 years ago I was getting ready to walk away myself, I was so hurt and mad at him. I am pretty sure I did not do or say a single kind thing to him. Looking back I am not sure how we made it through. Yes, I do...our kids who would have been 7 and 10 yrs old. Plus I made some changes in myself, and I guess so did he.

I know it happens, but It just surprises me that after 21 years of marriage, hard work and struggles, that someone can just "be done", without even trying. He might think he has, and I am sure he would tell you he has, but I must have missed it. I was pretty caught up in my own anger, and seemingly crappy life. This is what the changes in me are about and I am doing a really good job, if I do say so myself-- Showing him in actions and attitude!!