Hi Pho, I do think that's a positive thing - that he sought you out to have this convo, and that the aim was to try and put the record a little straighter.

Wow, the stuff he said before though...that must have been very tough to hear. But it is common for MLCers to lash out at their spouse in that way and also not recall things they did and said. Of course, for the LBS, these things burn like a laser and we can recall them!

I think you had some good responses - like the calm 'sure' and the 'Ok, I remember differently...'

It's good that you guys were able to revisit some of the more hurtful stuff and for the convo to stay on track as it did - credit to you my friend.

It makes me feel pretty lucky that my H hasn't directed much anger at me. Interesting also what your H said about feeling desperate and everything in life not working and breaking down. That really echoes some of the MLC stuff I've read.

Anyway, good for you xx

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus