Keeping the door cracked

[beckyb]

Validating or pursing?

Last week H had a surgical procedure. I knew he had something but didn't ask what it was.

Yesterday he volunteered that he was still recovering and had a stint in his kidneys. So I responded "Yikes. What did you have done?" He said "Had stones removed from kidneys" He had this done a few years ago" I waited several hours and responded "Sorry to hear that. I remember how uncomfortable that was for you last time" Nothing I wouldn't say to a neighbor.

A couple of weeks ago H said since we probably won't agree on divorce settlement we should probably limited communication to divorce stuff only. I very rarely communicate about anything personal. Apparently he thinks we still have that kind of connection. He keeps opening the door.

Also, H got our personal property tax bill and texted me to say so. I did a 180. Usually I would respond and tell him what to do with it. Instead I responded, "How would you like to handle it?" He didn't respond so a couple of days later I texted again. He said he thought we should split it in half. (better deal for me) I offered to mail a check but he said he'd pick it up. I don't think he wants me to have his address. He doesn't realized already have it.