There is an old saying: If everyone in the room is telling you your drunk, don't argue your not drunk, just sit down.
There seems to be an overabundance of posters who are ready, willing and able to help. Yet you maintain its not important to go over.
Talk about putting the "cart before the horse".
Have you considered instead of the forums here, why don't you try calling a DB coach? While I am pretty sure they may ask the same questions, maybe you would feel better if it was a one on one instead of through a public forum/BBS.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13