Hi PP, yes I agree with the wise posters above. Ending a R and filing for D will not engender intimacy. If something significant changes and your W asks you to consider rebuilding, takes D off the table or pauses it - well, at that stage you could think about this.

For now, I think you're doing just fine xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus