I'm making dinner. I was about to start without her when she sent me a text saying when was running late. I said OK, but let her know the kids are waiting to eat.
If she's not her in 30 mins we're gonna have this awesome dinner without her. She can have it by herself
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
Privacy is the state of being unobserved; changing clothes for example -- that which I keep private, I am merely withholding from public view. Private matters are those traits, truths, beliefs, and ideas about ourselves that we keep to ourselves. They might include our fantasies and daydreams, feelings about the way the world works, and spiritual beliefs. Private matters, when revealed either accidentally or purposefully, give another person some insight into the revealer.

Secrecy is the act of keeping things hidden -- that which is secret goes beyond merely private into hidden. While secrecy spills into privacy, not all privacy is secrecy. Secrecy stems from deliberately keeping something from others out of a fear. Secrets consist of information that has potentially negative impact on someone else-emotionally, physically, or financially. The keeper of secrets believes that if they are revealed either accidentally or purposefully, the revelation may cause harm to the secret-keeper and those around him or her.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
Second weird thing - she bought a semi clingy top while shopping and I accidentally walking on her while she was trying it on in the bathroom. I called her out so I could look at it and I realized she wasn't wearing any pants. It was not at all planned, but I'm pretty sure my response (jaw drop, dilated pupils, increased heart rate) let her know she looked damn good. She got a a cute/flirty school girl look on her face when she asked what I thought of it. I told her she looked great in it and as long as she was at home I would never ask her to wear pants, lol. After she playfully punched me in the chest she told me I was supposed to be looking at the shirt. I told her I was looking at the total package. Dear lord help me, but I think we're starting to flirt again. Never saw that coming, but I like it!
Only a LBS would see this as a good sign. You've got it all wrong. It means NOTHING to her. Some WW's get their kicks in turning the sexual heat up on the LBH's. It does NOT mean a darn thing! It is fun & games for you to be drooling and bugging eyes at her. It is ego food for her. What you see as her "flirting" is actually her encouraging you to give her more ego food.
You will have it turned in the right direction when she is the one drooping and panting over you. Next time, turn around and walk out. She is cheating on you, man! And you are snuggling up to her every morning for your cuddling time?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi, I know I'm an idiot, but I don't think she's leading me on just for the thrill of it, but I don't know anymore.
As for snuggling, I took it as a sign that she was over the om. It's only the last few days I got suspicious. I'll stop with the cuddling.
I'm probably just feeling really down right now, but I'm not sure I'll ever have her panting over me. It's been years... But I'll keep improving myself
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
And to be clear, I need to not pursue. I honestly thought I was following cuts from my w, but I see now that I was wrong. Time to brush myself off restart
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
Jpeg and Scidad, the WW doesn't have to be in an affair to qualify her as wayward. It's her hard, cold heart, and the selfish attitude she has. It's her meanness and bad treatment to her H. It is the complete change you see in this woman you M and now don't know who she is. Even her character/integrity can change! Three main areas that I have seen in all WW are disrespect, resentment and rebellion. The root stems from these areas and then the selfishness takes over. I do believe that b/c of the rebellion that finally kicks in, that she will eventually get involved with someone.
Some are worse or to a greater degree than others, but I have seen these common things in all the stories, and the ones I have known.....and in myself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
