Yeah but the great thing is you get to make a decision about where your head is going to be. Use that power!
In my M, my W and I went through a very bad period for a few years where my job was a dead end, we were in tens of thousands of dollars of debt, etc.
It took a while, but I buckled down...had to give up some family time and activities, but I successfully learned a new career, worked very hard and advanced quickly (took a couple calculated risks as well as getting lucky), and in the end got a better job in a better town with better schools. Got all the debt paid off (no bankruptcy!) by moonlighting and got us into a nicer house.
To this day I have never gotten any sincere expressions of appreciation for any of that from her. A few years back we ended up in an argument and she supported her claim that I don't follow through on anything by criticizing me for not having cut down a tree in the backyard that I wanted down. I said, what about all the debt, career changes, house, etc.? Why do you always find something wrong with me instead of looking at the good things I've done/am doing?
She had no answer. She did not apologize. She just quit talking about it...she's very passive-aggressive.
But in the end, if all they do is criticize and all they see are negatives...and even have to make non-issues into major negatives...that tells you exactly where their heads are at.
Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see, bro.
