Your wife is fully aware that it could have been/probably was you changing her Facebook password last week. Waywards are paranoid fools. Even with a great sell job she is still not 100% sure it wasn't you, soooo she goes into partner mode and acting all reassuring and cooperative.
This discussion about the woman at the gym is a set up. She is reestablishing her arguments for keeping her "friend" herself no matter what you saw. They likely know it wasn't much that you could have seen (because they probably put very little in writing ever)....so, she only needs to maintain that she can stay "friends" with him if and when you confront her.
Hope you are securing your computer. She may be or start snooping on you to see if you are on to her/them.
If you go back looking for the thing you hid and it's gone - you'll know she is reading here.
Last thought - I know you say you aren't that religious but did it not strike you as odd that shortly after wondering how the heck you were going to get access to your wife's car parked right out in front of the house that your wife then ASKS you to take a look at her car? That's God working for you. God hates divorce. At the very least it should have gave you the feeling that it was the right thing to do.
*funny - if she has been reading here what a great thing for her to do...ask you to take a look at her car and plant that little device asap so she knows where it is and she'll just stage the nicest conversations for a week in her car and everything will go back to normal. Trust me - I've seen, heard about and read the most messed up extremes way wards go to to keep their secret. They even have wayward forums and give each other tips. You've been posting on DB for years - she could have discovered your posting here years ago. Don't presume anything.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
