It turns out W plans to go out with her best GFs on her birthday and is then hoping for us all to go watch Star Wars the day after - the girls night out is new to me but I had already suggested the movie day.
There was mixture of shyness, regret and maybe guilt when she told me her plans for her birthday . Obviously normally we celebrate it together - she might suggest a birthday lunch with the boys.
Also the subject of Xmas presents came up. A few weeks ago she said she wanted us to still get each other Xmas and birthday presents but less than normal. Usually we spoil each other on our birthday and Xmas.
Today she said she was struggling to get me something as I had updated my wardrobe really well and she was struggling for ideas. Normally her main presents for me are clothes.
I said I would give her birthday present early as she might want it over the party season. She got a little worried I had spent a lot on her but I said its one biggish present.
Later she said she thought Xmas pressure was over ( we have bought/ordered most of our presents for family and the boys this weekend) but now she had pressure to buy me something nice and I had already got a fine set of clothes.
I validated and suggested alternatives.
This whole episode coupled with yesterday's extravagant purchase of a painting is a bit odd.
She has changed from the rebellious, resentful, disrespectful W to one showing regret, maybe guilt.
Rebellious: 5 weekends away with friends and family Resentful: she resented my presence in her car going to the gym, and going to a fireworks display Disrespectful: her attitude and tone over minor indiscretions around the house.
This weekend she hasn't gone out drinking with friends - first time for 2 months There has been no disrespectful attitude or language for a week And no obvious resentment.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
