Zoo, I think it is harder for us (the betrayed) to get "over it" more so than our S. Frankly, I see through your posts that you really have nothing to worry about! I think you need to work out the do and don't's and soon you will not need to bug your H with your insecurities. Look at the positives, not the negatives and learn to trust him. And I do believe you need to trust him, more than anything! Don't let the old A issues rot and fester until you have no R with your H. Don't let it eat away until you go back to where you just came from.
Be thankful things are where they are and you can build a new and better R with your H. Sometimes we need to "let go" of the bad, for good. It is the past, bury it and move on.
