Hi Guys, thanks for your comments....they are much appreciated. And Lou, thanks in particular for sharing about your Mum. That was very moving and helped me too.
Well, gosh it has been a busy few days. The Thanksgiving Supper was great! Food all turned out well, and we raised £600 for charity too. Yesterday was bookstore and then I treated myself to a completely different hairstyle. It's quite a radical change.....but, I'm worth it Today was a calligraphy workshop, and then I'm taking my Dad out to see a movie tomorrow.
I bought the Healing from Divorce book by Jim Smoke, and have read the first few chapters. It's structured in the same way as the divorce recovery workshop I'm doing, and so I'm revisiting themes we already looked at. There are just two sessions left for the workshop, and I'll be sad when it finishes. But I have made a new friend who lives in my town and she & I have shared lifts a couple of times now. I think we'll keep in touch when the course finishes, plus there's a social scene for former participants and I joined the mailing list for that.
All quiet with H. After the event, I realised his last email to me was sent at 10.30pm and was innessential really. Just updating me about something that may happen and apologising for missing my B'day (don't worry H...you missed it last year too...and the anniversaries... ) I do find that if I sit back long enough, he does initiate with something...I do have to sit back for a few weeks for that to happen though.
Reading the healing from D book, I do wonder if it is healthy for me to still be 'hanging on in there' any more. I get that it isn't healthy to jump into a R with someone else too soon. And I know the theories about MLC and the PA and so on. But TBH, I'm not even sure I would want to save the M at this point. I guess I'm just working on the basis that, even if I didn't want to save things, I wouldn't tell H anyway, and it is too soon to date, and I am still a little mixed up - so may as well carry on as I am for now.
Anyway - hope everyone is having a lovely weekend xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Today was a calligraphy workshop, and then I'm taking my Dad out to see a movie tomorrow. 
) I do find that if I sit back long enough, he does initiate with something...I do have to sit back for a few weeks for that to happen though. 