Agreed. You do the best you can with the information and experience you have at the time.
At some point you'll have to show your daughters it's ok to let their mom take care of herself. That it's ok to not control or "fix" somebody else regardless. That's tough, but it's a valuable lesson for the kids.
Life is for the living. Live it.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."