She wants me to Leave 3rd Time .....EA Confirmed!

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Max - recording will give me evidence/knowledge of an EA/PA and whether to treat W as a WAW or a WW. I will record for one week and then retire the device.

More to the point W went out this afternoon to a local Art gallery with S11. S11 is into art and they have been planning to go for a while.

They get back and W says 'you might not like this but we just bought an original painting for £750 ($1150)

I was a little taken aback as just two days ago W was saying how she didnt have much money this month and maybe we needed to not splash out on the kids this Xmas. She wanted to take money from the joint account to pay for kids presents.

Background: W isnt very 'homely', and rarely spends money on the house. We only have one other expensive painting by Damian Hurst worth £5000 which we chose back in 2012 after we reconciled.it was a bit symbolic. Also We have been saving for a year or more to get a conservatory for the house. She was putting any spare money into this saving account.

I validated and said it was fine and Im sure she chose a beautiful painting and I couldnt wait to see it.

She said things like 'its my money and I can afford it' 'I feel bad spending that sort of money at this time but its beautiful' 'Anyway you might take the 'Damian Hurst' (i.e. hen we separate.) - this comment p!ssed me off.

I didnt know what to say except to validate and tried to keep the conversation away from a discussion on who gets what after separation. I made reassuring noises and looked interested in what she bought and found a picture of the painting on the internet.

I'm a little saddened as the last big painting purchase was a joint purchase after reconciliation and this one she chose herself.
She later said 'It was the painting that S11 and I liked the most - thats why I bought it.'

She was also then straight onto FB to tell everyone - except she didnt mention the artist or cost. I am also pretty sure she was FB messaging OM with the news. She was texting while talkng to S8 and I came and stood next to her and saw a nonsense cartoon that OM had sent her last Sunday. So on the one hand she was FB messaging him but on the other hadnt done so for a week - but she is probably calling him from the car.

Dont know what to think!