"Care and Feeding" Instructions NOT Included

[Zoo]

I'll be darned, I actually got locked out of a thread !

I got my title from a discussion I was having with Pam. I don't know about anyone else but my H definitely did not come with any "Care and Feeding" Instructions.

Like Pam, I fear that I might too often regard H in the same way I regard my animals and treat him in much the same way That is NOT a good thing.

I consider my M "Busted" but have been floundering about horribly while trying to maintain that status. Again, no "Care and Feeding" instructions have been included so I have been winging it...not exactly a brilliant move on my part

Hopefully, in this thread I will be able to apply myself to both H and M and get those darn instructions figured out

I picked up DR again today and started smacking myself in the head. I lost sight of where I was and how I got there and forgot that sometimes things just AREN'T great 24/7. I ended up spiraling because a couple of bad days/weeks freaked me out and had me thinking I was pretty much BACK to where I was 6 mos ago.

I GOT STUCK on my baby-steps. When I say that I mean that I don't think I truly looked for anything beyond the very simple ones I looked for in the beginning. I fixated on those. I wanted H to smile at me and to LOOK at me. I put an EXTREME amount of importance on those...too much actually because I haven't gotten beyond them. When those things DON'T happen I feel like I am back to square one again and that my interaction with H and my M are once again "failing". The other positives that might occur in lieu of those two things have no significance to me...even when they are probably BETTER.

I have to change that obviously

I am hoping to use the guidance from DR to help me with this...chapters 5, 6 and 7. Now that I have seen the erroe of my ways perahps I can get it RIGHT

Hugz,
Zoo