Kfto please stop saying nice guys finish last - I truly DO NOT believe that.
You WILL NOT finish last. You are the better person in this sitch and there is a reason for that. We just can't see it yet, through the pain we are experiencing but i know clarity will come, it has started to for me. I am a "nice guy" (girl/woman) and I am not planning on finishing last.
I know this: all 5 of my kids are with me, believe in me, trust me, love me - they haven't seen their father for almost 3 months. I would rather be where I am than where H is (he just spent night cheating on his OW with another OW - ya that's right!)
This can take a long time but you have said how much you love your wife and she wants to stay married so please keep trying and this forum is the best place to left off steam- and on your mats too
And please don't ever wish your were a dick - we have too many of those in our lives - we want to see the good guys!!!!
