Why yes, Alive and well (the rumors of my death are greatly exaggerated). I still lurk, but have not found any threads that jump out as needing my "free advice". But my eye is always out for them.
Glad to hear you're doing well, I needed to make Sure the rumors weren't true . I feel the same I've kept up with a few but I never feel like I have much to add.
H started his new job and is commuting as well. Not as far as me but driving quite a bit. He's making almost triple what he had been making the past few years since starting at that place. Grad school is kicking my butt! I actually just was asked to apply for a new position making close to six figures but I don't know how I would mange school with that. Better to have more options then not enough, though!
We are taking the boys to NYC in a few weeks and then H and I have an anniversary weekend planned for the weekend in a couple months to a tropical destination.
Are things perfect? Absolutely not... But we COMMUNICATE. We talk. He really is much more cognizant of his behavior. I still get upset if something triggers the past but I deal with it on my own and it doesn't last long and I don't let it affect my Mood towards others.
The biggest trigger I've probably dealt with happened last week while I was out with the boys painting pottery of all places - OW was there. Fortunately I've dealt with running into her with the boys before. I repeated what I did previously. Didn't even acknowledge that I noticed her and continued on with what we were doing.
Glad to hear you're doing well, I needed to make Sure the rumors weren't true .......Anyway hope everyone is well!
Your post really made my day, I am so glad to hear it
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
Thank you so much for coming back to update us. I like what you said about the role of communication. It seems like no relationship will ever be smooth sailing so that we need to find someone who will communicate with us. I'm really glad that things are good in your M. How about I move you from the piecing to the reconciliation section of the success stories?
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
Happy Thanksgiving To you and your family from the UK!
Do you have a link to your original thread as I would like to read your success story? Did your H have an EA/PA or was he a WAH?
Also would you be so kind as to make a list of what worked and what didnt work. Thanks
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Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
Special thanks as always to woundedfool, Train. Sandi, Gbelle, Maybell, Claire, and so many more that I know I am forgetting!
Well aww shucks....
Right back at ya' kid. Have a great Christmas and NY.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
. I feel the same I've kept up with a few but I never feel like I have much to add. 