H has started an affair 3

[Sotto]

Hi Anna, I'm sorry it wasn't the easiest day Sweetie. People I have spoken to at my Divorce Recovery Group have said that the pain caused for their kids was harder for the pain caused to themselves.

Who knows where he went for the rest of the day. It may not have been a short visit because he had somewhere to be...he may have had a pretty lonely day IDK..

If he did spend time with OW family, there is likely some story they have been told - like 'he and his W separated earlier this year' or similar. They are unlikely to know it is an A. In my experience, not many people really admit to that unless they don't see another option. My H didn't tell his parents about his A for a good while. At one point I asked him if they knew and he said he presumed so(??)

I hope the get together at SILs went well though. Please remember that what H wants now could well change. At the moment, he is rejecting his old life for the shiny new dream. But as reality seeps in, his R with you and his kids may come more to the forefront. As for Xmas, well I would make it as nice a one as possible in all the circumstances. Plan some nice things for you and the kids, and if H wants to be a part of it, you and he can agree how that will work.

Take care Anna...you're doing so well. This is neither a short or easy road. But we are on it and we make it through the best we can.

xx