Wife checked out

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Thanks for the replies, I have been lurking here for a month and a half so I am familiar with the welcome post (homework) and with Sandi and her story, which has really guided me thus far in this mess. I don't know exactly how but I found this site and was immediately drawn into Sandis story very early into my sitch. I'm glad I did.
As I said, I asked her to leave after I discovered the lying, she says she lied to keep from hurting me. I did a few dumb things like begging, crying, confronting OM, endless R talks etc. She was upset that I went to her softball game and confronted OM in front of the whole team, who was apparently unaware of them being in an affair together. But I didn't do it to get a reaction from her or to try to embarrass her, I did it because I think doing anything inappropriate with a married woman especially my wife deserves a whoopin'. Anyway we really didn't end up fighting or anything physical other than yelling and him running away. But I do believe they are not together now. She is hell bent on dating other people and had no problems telling me so. She has created a Tinder account and is trying to meet with people through it all the time, even when she is killing time waiting to pick up our D from dance practice.

My focus is shifting though, more away from her crapola and toward the kids and myself.