ILYNILWY and it's done? Gift of 1 month

[Butterc]

I was able to write down in my gratitude journal several things yesterday but it was so bittersweet because H was there for dinner and I happened to notice he took off his ring. Made me sick to my stomach... and that's unfortunate because I'm a darn good chef.

I actually confronted him about it. (So much for staying dim, I'm kicking myself) and I reminded him that our vows (which we said MONTHLY) started with" I, (name) choose you, (name)"
I held out my left hand and said told him, take the rings off, you haven't chosen me. It was very emotional and he wouldn't do it.

It was his choice, he didn't choose me, yet he won't give me an act that shows it.

I know, I'm looking at this the wrong way. He is not the man who proposed to me with that ring. He is not the man who stood and said those wedding vows. But he is still the guy who as late as August of this year (before BD in Sept) who still repeated his vows with me. It wasn't all my initiative either!. I would start on even months and he would do the odd.

Today I'm feeling better, Reading some threads here this morning helped so much. I needed some dosages of reality.

D is gone with him shopping Black Friday and I am going to sit down with my morning coffee and keep reading these boards, and journaling. Thank you all. So many of your posts make a BIG difference. I am not one for replying on other's boards, but I am grateful for your perspectives.