I'm up for a challenge. Give me 5 comments/questions that you might feel compelled to respond to. I'll post how I would reply, along with why. Not to say that's 'right', or that my style or approach is the way you'd like to handle the situation, but maybe you'll notice a pattern.
I agree with not explaining. This is extreme to some forum members, but I see STBX as a murderer. I see my W as dead, and STBX is the one that killed her. I think anyone that is willing to destroy a family for a romantic illusion and convince themselves it's ok is delusional and dangerous. Why would I explain anything to that person? Why would I debate?
No. I protect. I set boundaries. I co-parent.
Maybe a day comes when that person sees the consequences of their journey. Just like maybe there comes a day Charles Manson would regret his crimes. But I'm not going to wait by the jail cell and reading the bible to him hoping he comes around. I'm going to protect myself and stay the heck away as I build my new life.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
