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[vise82]

Hey GS9,

thanks for that insight. My W was a relator for a while and I supported her with it, it was tough with money not coming in for months then a lot of money all at once. Ultimately she did not follow the advice of the seasoned relator she was working with and kids came along and that was the end of it. But not with out some debt for advertising that we put on a credit card that I wish was in her name right now.


Water under the bridge.

After sleeping on it, I think the talk although not ideal, I will look at the positives. I was honest and shared my thoughts, I stood up for myself. and she ultimately listened to my concern allowing me to come up with a date of selling the house.

As I left for work this morning there was no good morning just instructions on what to do with the kids when I get home ( start putting up the Christmas tree). I didn't reply and she asks OK? and I just stared at her wanting to say you don't get to boss me around, but I was planning on doing that anyway, kids have been asking for two days now to the point of crying about it. I just said ok.

Things I don't get, Why is she giving such a hard time with the split bank accounts. What is the big deal if she wants to live in a separate places she is only going to have her own money anyway. She is refusing to put her pay check in her own account because they hold it for 3 days. And she is saying she cant buy Christmas gifts with her own account because the debit visa is attached to the joint account. And the two purchases were gifts from the kids to her brothers fiancée and from the kids to her mother. Then she says bills don't get paid if. I am going to have to push for this harder.

Then she was saying why does she even have to use her own account.. because you want me to??

I thought it was going to be a quiet month. I want to call it quits but then I see my S4 this morning so innocent. I am so torn right now. Do I even want to live with this woman that does not have an inch of love for me. She was yelling again, I had to ask her to stop yelling, And it was over me asking her about transactions with the bank account. And she wonders why I don't want to talk to her about things, that's a reason.