Quote: I'm trying to figure out what you "footing" is from your posts. Have you let it be known that the countdown clock is running? I actually had to "shock" my wide a little to get her to see the big picture of our situation by telling her that it's all or nothing time....that I will give 100% if she does.
That's my plan, but we haven't had that conversation yet. My intention is to have it this weekend. Yesterday was a wash because she's painting S18's room, plus there was DD20's concert last night (smashing, BTW - Schubert's Mass in Eb Major), so I'm hoping for today, but we'll be finishing up the painting, then she wants to do her parents' income tax return, so we'll see. I do intend to make it like an intervention if I have to (i.e. interrupt her in the middle of something, pull her away from it, and say "we really need to have this talk").
I really am thinking that one major contributor to my sitch has been my willingness to "let things slide" for long periods of time, while waiting for "conditions to be better" or for her to make some move, or something. I'll be letting her know that those days are OVER!
