in house S (5)

[vise82]

hey,

Just had a big blow up. I tried to keep my cool, I slipped up a couple of times. I tried to validate. I need more practice.

W was pushing me to accept the S and for me to start talking about things. I said I was going at my own pace and doing things on my own time, what was best for me and the kids. She took that as she wasn't looking out for the kids.

It was the issue of the joint account that she is using as her slush fund. there is a child benefit that we both should have use of and she is using that to pay for stuff she wants.

She start blaming me again for opening up my own checking account and not giving her access to it. I said that I would start to pay for all the bills now and ask her for her half. She didn't like that and was saying why now when it doesn't matter are you interested in that?

Then it got bad and she was threatening getting a L if I didn't move on things, I called her out on that threat. THEN SHE TELLS ME SHE DIDNT LIKE THAT I WASNT HAPPY WITH THE NEWS OF HER FATHER WAVING ALL THE INTEREST ON THE MORTGAGE. I said that it looks like he is trying to pay me off to divorce you. wrong thing to say as I had to back track and she starts defending the honour of her dad. And that she will take the money then if I didn't want it.

It went on

then I said that I didn't feel comfortable talking to her about this stuff because I feel she always tries to force her ideas on me and fluff off my ideas, like the joint account for house and kids expenses. Like how she is fighting against that. I asked why haven't you written a S agreement, she said she was worried that anything she writes down I will want the opposite.

I was stressing that I need to get my stuff in order first, I am looking out for me and need get my stuff together before I can think of moving. she was pushing for a date. I didn't feel comfortable right now to give one. she left it that when I have a date we can talk.

She was saying it not normal to be living like this and we cant go on living like this. I said I didn't either and that I never wanted this and that I want us to work on us and a new MR. I think she thought I was crazy for wanting that. She wants out so bad and cant see any other solution to this MR.