wwb: I was so flattered that you wrote such a long post to me on Tim47's thread - until I got to the end and read the next post... Anyhow, I know what you mean about anger. I sing all around the house and tell jokes but sometimes I get mad when the kids get uppity or won't do their homework. W and Ks constantly tell me I’m grumpy but actually I’m a lot more happy than grumpy. W is grumpy most of the time and is often on me and the kid’s backs about something or other. She has a similar attitude to your H – sees problems in everything - although not quite as bad as your H. When I started reading the SSM book I realised that I had to stop all the anger and mostly I have. Mind you, it’s not easy when I have been trying hard to fill W’s love tank and then get knocked back over something trivial like eating the last choc in the box. Yesterday in the car S11 said that he was fed up with mum being on his back all the time – he was told off for leaving his coat at a party (he was forced to wear it there). I guess because I have not been as angry her anger has become more obvious. My guess is if I can stay in control then she will cool off too. SD
