First of all... It is generally true ... men do not separate first in order to go windows shopping. They like to jump from one warm bed into another.
- I was involved for quite some time. - Yes she did and with whom - I never regretted PA. Still dont. I consider it a moment in my life where since a long time I was loved by someone who was interested in me and the sex was off the charts. For a H on a sex diet for so long it was like being given a blank cheque in willy wonkas factory. I also learned a lot and became a stronger person. The way I saw it .. if my w does not want any emotional or physical contact with me whats wrong with sharing what I have to give with someone else so long as W gets the paycheck she wants. - I decided to work on my M when I saw I could lose my W. Also I saw the R with OW was going nowhere and i was tired of the double life. i wanted a single healthy one. So we decided to call it a day as OW felt the same and I focused on piecing what was left of my M and see what it would become. It was make or break. TBH even if I had not seen message from OM we still would have broken up OW and me. - My w woke me up with the frienship with this guy. But I still had resentment for her. jealous that door outwards she was happy and door inwards miserable.
- She never ade changes, just became controlling and aggressive so I distanced myself and when one day she said to give it a go she said it under pressure. I said no. I will always regret that day decision. had I known DB then I would have said yes and known what to do. Hindsight is a b1tch.
I was messed up and found a nice place to be myself in a sort of twisted way. Looking back yes it was wrong and i imagine it has a sort of fairytale side to it because I never got caught.
She did, I played the role of the LBS when in fact I was a WLBS for sometime but really it was just anger that what I had so desparately wanted from her for a long time, before my PA, she gave in part to someone else.
Anyway, being in a PA also helped me understand her thinking and even more so after DB so I knew what she was going through. The OW also made me a stronger person and I have become more calmer and less talk and more action.
As for a PA due to work stress, thats BS. I have a lot of stress at work so I scr3w a neighbour or colleague because it helps?. If things were OK I would rather tap my w than get involved in a PA. if things are not Ok at home then yes, I understand a PA but never down to work stress.
