Tl2. Hijack away. It's helpful to all of us, especially in my case, to hear about the husband's point of view. I guess they have to be very remourseful or it simply can't work. And even then.
Maximus, thank you for your perspective. To me the worst part has always been suspecting but not knowing for sure if there is affair. No real way for Intel at this point. Of course he has sworn there was no one but I know they will never admit it. The signs are there and everything would make sense. I also frequently hear that men do not leave their wives unless there is another woman.
How long were you involved in affair for? Did she suspect? How long did it take you to regret it ? What made you eventually want to work on marriage? Was there anything your wife could have done that would have woken you up sooner (no contact? File for divorce? ). Do you mean that while you were having affair she was making changes to improve marriage but it was too late for you at the time?
This past year I had been making changes and he just was checked out (supposedly he was stressed with work). I believed that. But I know what it sounds like when you read it. He had increased his time at gym and was just not around much.
When I read and think about how he treated me and think that there was other woman I am sickened and just want to move on and eventually find someone else.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
