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[vise82]

Hey,

I just got an email from W. We have not had any talk about selling the house except once and I said we can think about it in the spring, that was weeks ago.

Well she mailed me today. it said that she has been looking at houses and that she entered a contest for a free listing and won. She is saying how good it is that she won and we wont have to pay for a listing and commission. She called it our house which is different. she is making it sound like this great thing.

She wants to know when we are going to list the house for sale, she is saying that the contest people need to know, its a lie because the free listing is good for a year. She is saying they need to know ASAP. And so we can plan to do all the work needed before we sell the house. Meaning all the work I need to do.

I am kind of floored I thought she would of left it alone till the new year. now I have to decide what to say. Why do WW always use email to talk about this tough stuff, the ILYBNILWY was via email. I am questioning her saying that she was OK with me spending Christmas at her parents house.

I think I am in shock right now. How can she expect me to even think about that when I have not been approved for anything yet as far as where I am going to live. I think she is trying to get me in gear to fix up the house for sale as I normally do all that type of stuff. or make me mad enough to not spend Christmas with her family.

I have a GAL with the kids tonight and she told me she wont go this week she is going to the gym. Is this really that easy for her to split up with me?? That winning a contest like that is great news??

I know some of you have said that it might take her moving out to help her realize what she is loosing.

I thought the common thing to do is a separation agreement first before any large sale of anything. A separation agreement she has yet been able to start.

The thought before was that I would say:

since you wanted to separate I have had an awakening and I am focused on working on making me a better person, and a great father to our boys. For me selling the house isn't a priority right now.