I've been here a while. SSM wasn't a book when I arrived and I've seen the bb change colors so many damn times it makes me dizzy. Don't be turned off of hope by the fact that I'm still around, there are different reasons for it.
As you will see if you venture over to my neck of the woods (btw I do have a thread floating around this forum too called "just the wife") things are progressing. A ssm can as you are discovering lead to other issues. It is my belief that the ssm was cause but who knows could be a case like DBrooke (newly posted in this forum) where other factors are the cause of ssm and I/we focus on the symptom rather than the general problems cuase heck the symptom is what we see/feel/hear etc.
The links provided in my current thread were the first ones..there were others that followed but that's where I started so it may show you that progress is possible.
Still struggle with the ssm issue but it has gotten better and slowly I hope it will get even better and well if it doesn't well then I'll just have to start leaving "toys" around for h to find.
