I found from experience and others that only sons are strong and confident when they have an emotional back up plan. IE an OW.
Most cannot take being alone and least of all if loneliness is due to them. The rejection from the son will hit hard .... in due time.
In a way we are also like WW. Especially only child. We need to feel the loss.
When I was focused with OW I never saw changes my W made. I never paid attention to her FB profile pics with tears or WA profile messages with sad quotes or quotes of encouragement. I never even paid attention when she started wearing short dresses and heels.
It was only after I decided to work on my M that everything clicked. I realized what she was going through, the chances I had been given, even the small changes.
Your H needs to get his head out of where the sun doesnt shine to realize what you are saying. Unfortunately it will take time.
