in house S (4)

[vise82]

Hey,

I picked up my kids after school and the teacher tells me youngest was physical to another student, scratched their face. Oldest heard this and said something to the youngest and they started to punch and kick each other. I get them home and they continue to just fight with each other. W comes home and we separate them and try to talk to them.

W goes to older kids event and I stay home with younger son. He is upset he wants to put up the Christmas tree, I tell him we will wait till everyone is home to do it. He is tired and fall asleep on the couch.

W and S6 come home and she is having trouble with him, he wont come in the house, he wants to put up Christmas tree as well. he was having a fit and throwing stuff. He had to go into time out.

When you see your kids acting this way you tend to think its because of the poor relationship between the parents. This is what my W would say before BD and was a reason for us to S. That it was affecting the kids. Well S is affecting them even worse.

Poor guys I can see that they are in pain and do want there parents to be happy together. That's what all kids want.

For me at home my anger has dropped off. I am saying good morning and hello and its more natural. I don't have to force it anymore. I can see she is having a hard time saying it back.

So for the kids I am going to decorate the house, I have the lights up already and tonight the tree is going up. Then when the tree is up I am going to start putting the presents for the in laws under it. Here is the big one, do I get my W something?? I am just wondering if I can use this Christmas momentum to my advantage. All of this is a 180 for me, I was not big on gifts.