I wasn't sure if your post was or wasn't intended to be a letter to w at some point (thought that may be your querry over whether it was ok to post it or not). Plenty of my posts started out as statements but ended up being rants directed at h...it was always odd to look back and see the wording changing from h to you.
In any case, even though you may argue with yourself it may be wise to read it from w's point of view. And no you wouldn't have to leave yourself (yes I know it was said in jest) you may however have to leave some beliefs you've been holding onto.
Since you've popped in and read some of dr and it's making sense to you, I'd suggest you round yourself up a copy as there is a whole lot of useful info in it.
and just incase you're wondering, I am the hd spouse in my m so understand very well where you are comming from. DR/DB has helped me to see things a bit differently even if only a bit.
