Everyone here shared their we'll be better thoughts. It's natural and sadly, pointless at best. Here's the thing, she says she wants to work on things but if she means it, she means it like most people say they want to get in shape as a new years resolution. Sure, it would be nice, but you gotta diet, go to the gym and the couch looks so comfy. Your old marriage is the couch. She treated you how she liked and then got to cheat on you when she wanted to get a little boost. So, you can't motivate her to get up. You have to get up so the couch isn't comfy. It's going to take a while man. Don't bother rationalizing. She's not rational. When she talks you validate. That will make here talk more. And that [censored]. Because she'll tell you what a bad husband you were. And then you'll validate more. Do your 180s. Gal. Then she'll be angry, depressed, angry etc then maybe cone around. You're not going straight to blackberry here. You can't buy it either, but you can earn it. Happy thanksgiving.
