Scrant, back off with the questions my friend!! Your W regards herself as a free agent right now and the 'really??' was asking you what right you have to expect an answer to these.

Boundary-wise, if you want her to check with you before making a big expense, simply ask her to do that and no more. Equally, you may want to think about a financial split sooner rather than later

Please try and let go of all that she is doing right now. It will not serve you well. In time things may change, but likely not for a while..

Take care xx

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