do nothing or what

[roist]

Happy 20th anniversary together today...... well not so much happy.

I'm all over the place. Every time I advance personally I seem to get dragged back down. Saving my M is still top of my wish list but saving me is my priority.

I think I am relatively detached from the outcome but not from the situation. I am reflecting hard on my path forward. I have prepared some stuff should I wish to confront W on EA. It is so boderline what you would expect from normal good friends and my proof is just an inappropriate email exchange but nothing stronger. I am following isittoolate's situation closely and finding the advice good.

I have also found a super thread here where the concept of doing nothing is really explained. There is good logic in it too.

I am already having a hard time of holding it together, so I am hoping to hold off on acting until after Christmas. This is my pressie to my sons: a family Christmas together. But if I come across some harder proof of EA...........

Life's other stresses seem to be lining up to take shots at me lately. I don't see how just yet but I know I will get through all of this and all will be better.II am convinced 2016 will be my year.

My IC advises strongly to just talk with W and take it from there. She does not believe W really wants to leave, based on my ramblings of the situation.II have another session booked to release my stress and frus5ration.