She wants me to Leave 3rd Time .....EA Confirmed!

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NDY - managed to read up to mid june - tough, tough sitch you went through.

Getting away from the EA for now:

These last 3 day I have been away on business and was determined to do no contact unless necessary (except to speak to kids before bed)

This is how W has reached out to me (baby steps)

On Monday , phonecall and text under pretext of kids wanting to talk to me before bed. She then talks about her day at work and tried to extend the call. Later she tagged me in a FB post.

Tuesday, phonecall at work (most unusual) to talk about her 'fears' 'anxiety' re S11 walk to railway station in the morning in the dark. This is the first time he has done it. I validate.

Wednesday I rang her on the way to work ( done to change things around - she again talks about her anxiety for s11)

After work she rings to talk about why I had withdrawn some money from joint account without telling her. This is a mess up by me but I had legitimate reasons and she agreed it was ok during the phonecall). She didnt like the fact I hadn't told her and said it was an issue of trust - TRUST FFS - I so wanted to say what about OM!

I apologised for not telling her and she was fine about it.

She also mentioned how money was tight and we needed to spend less on kids for Xmas (we usually splash out). I thought hmmm, this is the woman who wants us to separate and increase our outgoing by £1000 per month!!

We also talked about arrangements for Friday night when I have a GAL night out. I told her I would be also out from 6:30 - 7:30 - but not why and where.

She's got an issue with me telling her 'I'm going out' but not where and why. She said I wouldn't like it if she did the same. She wants us to be transparent as to where we are going. I said ok - in future I would tell her where. In fact I am going to see IC.

Later she called me back from her car to let me talk to S8 before bed. She didnt have to as I had already spoken to both S8 and s11 earlier.

In summary - she reaches out in a small way talking about her 'fears' and work - something she wouldnt do with OM - they just have stupid goofball convos. She doesnt like it when i go out without telling her where. In future I will just say I'm going to the mall.

Tonight I have a GAl activity - Liverpool v Bordeaux soccer game - my first for several years!