Hi Julie H, it's good he is giving you some feedback, though I appreciate it's hard to hear. I would encourage you to have a think about what he has said and take what you can from it.

It is common for partners to put the children first (understandably) and for their M to suffer as a result. It's a difficult balance to get right I think...and I think some fathers do feel 'sidelined' by the love, focus and attention on children.

I'm not saying anything he said was right - only that it is helpful if you can dig deep within yourself and assess whether what he says may have some validity in your eyes.

Take care x

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus