So..towards peace and happiness..

[BrightFuture]

Sotto, thanks for sharing your Divorce Recovery Group experience. I completely understand how you feel about that “asking for forgiveness” part. I felt the same way. I wanted to apologize for my part in our M going sour, but would never think about asking for forgiveness. I’m slowly coming to a realization that I would want to do it one day.

I agree with everyone here, that there must the right time for this. I know that I’m not quite ready to initiate it, but if he would initiate a R talk or wants to reconcile, like in Lou’s case, I think I could do it.

Lou, what a great post!
This ^^^^^

I have owned the part I played. I understand that how I acted during our marriage, whether caused by how he treated me or from my own insecurities and demons, affected h and our m.

Same here. Now I can actually see how my actions and insecurities affected our M, and quite frankly I do feel sorry for H for what he had to take from me sometimes.

And this ^^^^^

Having this time away from our m forced me to address my own demons which in turn has made me change myself, I have grown as a person as a result. If h had not left me, it is doubtful I would have done the internal work required to make me who I am today.

I’ve been dealing with the issues from my childhood, and I’m too a very different person now. Sometimes I cannot even understand why I did certain things and behaved in certain way. I enjoy life a lot more now.

Sotto, I’m glad that the Divorce Recovery Group is helping you, and I’m glad that you are feeling better now. Happy Thanksgiving!