Hi Focus, if he texts asking you for D, you could say - 'D isn't what I want, but if that's your choice, I won't stand in your way.'

I did this (my thread is in MLC) and have sat back and let H do all the work. I'm not obstructive, I'm just 'hands off' and I merely respond when needed...

Take care x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus