I think I just figured out that I am a man and my H is a woman. We fit the exact roles/patterns Sandi described but for the opposite genders.
My H will barely kiss me. I noticed his lack of kissing about a month before BD and there was only one time since then that I felt a genuine kiss. I get a peck on the cheek or a very passionless, "holding back" kind of kiss if we are doing it. It kind of ruins it.
