This threw her for a loop. I simply explained my boundary again -"I will not live in an open marriage". This statement was followed by, "If you can't make the commitment to breaking off all conversation with OM, I feel like we're wasting our pastor's time, as well as our own'. I then left the room, and went downstairs. I've been sleeping outside the bedroom, as the pastor mentioned it's probably a good thing to stay apart for a while.
I agree. B/c a WW will play these little games. Okay, she cooked the first mean in 15 yrs and thinks that merits the right to talk to OM (just as a example). If you give one little inch, they will definitely take a mile. So, yes, you tell her no open M means no talking or listening at OM, No reading emails or texts (b/c they try to get around what you mean).
Good job!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
