I think it is good that you posted this. I don't necessarily think you made a huge mistake. I think it is still something that you can explain the woman that cuts your hair to just clear the air. I know all the books say only guy friends. I also know that I have spoke to women and received the same response as you. It is good for our self worth in my opinion so I am not against still having friends of the opposite sex as long as you are confident you may not slip up.
I don't go out actively looking for female friends but I do not stop myself from speaking to them either.
I doknow one thing though, I choose my words very carefully around the females. If I have learned one thing in life that this is a very small world and things get back to W when you wouldn't think.
I think you are doing great. We all spin still in my opinion. not sure that will go away anytime soon either.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15