in house S (4)

[vise82]

Hey OTW,

this is a cautionary tale,

I have been getting my hair cut buy the same woman at a male barber shop that has all female barbers, I was taking my kids there too as its all sports themed they had good prices for kids cuts.

It was our guy place to go just me and the boys. Well that didn't last long before my W before BD shows her face in the place because I didn't answer her texts while I was getting a cut.

Then she would come when we would get our cuts. I asked her to back off nicely but she wouldn't, the woman that cut my hair ended up friending my W on facebook to share with us photos of the kids cuts. I thought it was different but ok.


The woman and I get along and I thought it was just good customer service. My W would joke to me that I had a crush on her. Not realy but it was funny to hear that from my W.

She ended up quitting that place and started to cut hair from home. My W started to get her hair done by her as well. At this point as part of DB I started to get my hair cut more often to keep a fresh look. The more I got it cut the more friendly she was to me. My wife got her hair done before the wedding she went to. I got my hair cut a week after and she asks how my W is and the family, so I told her that wee are S and I was surprised that my W didn't tell her.

She was floored and was going on how my W is nuts for leaving such a great guy and she would do anything have what we have and so on. And asking if I have been going out. Just all this great stuff about me, and how maybe she just feels like this because she is single and then saying she is the same age as my W. I was saying at the same time that I was trying to save the MR and letting my W do the work if this is what she wants.

So the next day I get thinking and rationalized me contacting her so that I could make more friends. That it would be no more that that. So I text her. for like an hour, just normal stuff. Then I email her that I would like to talk to her more as she was a good listener. She stopped it there, She said she valued my W and I friendships and would like it to stay like that.

I was devastated and all I was trying for was to have a friend someone to talk to, like we already were just not in the barber chair. She was the first person that I have told about the S. I was vulnerable and took a chance that was not the right time to take and got hurt.

This put me in that spin that I had last week. The rejection was like a second blow and punched me further into despair. I think sub consciously was spawned from hearing about my W looking for a man and wanting to mess around with the best man.

I knew that the NMMNG says look for friends that are male right now.

I messed up and if anything I hope it might stop someone else from making the same mistake after reading about it.