If my H is behaving according to script and looking to formalise some sort of S agreement in the near future (and my guess is that he'll be looking to start before the beginning of February next year for various reasons related to his work), or go ahead with a D, then how do I respond?
I'm in no rush to make a decision on it at the moment. I'm actually quite enjoying the period of time to myself without having to deal with him and his stuff.
At the moment, I would be willing to wait quite a long time to have any kind of interaction with him (certainly until the start of February, which then means May because of his work schedule).
I wouldn't be averse to answering a text he sent. One of the reasons being that I've ignored his last two texts (the one he sent a month ago saying it's best if we separate, and his latest temperature checking one). And a second reason being that I don't want it to look like I'm cutting him off completely. But I would like it to be something totally neutral and non committal. And I wouldn't answer straight away. Maybe leave it a couple of days.
Like, if he were to text me asking for a D, could I say something like 'well, it's certainly something to think about'? Or is there something else I could say that's even more vague and non committal and basically bats the ball back to his court?
Or maybe I should ignore a text like that too?
I think he's wanting me to take charge and organise everything for him. And I don't really want to do that. My time and energy is for myself at this point in time, and to use how I decide to use it. Sorting out his mess wouldn't be one way I would choose to use it.
