Lost Hope (5)

[JulieH]

I am also frusturated, because these are universal issues that often come up after small children. They are issues that could have been worked out. I Was really unhappy after kids were born, but I never seriously considered ending the marriage. we could have worked on these issues and I feel like he gave up. He gave up without real counseling (our counselor was very unethical..whole other story) without moving into apt to work on us, without reading any relationship books. He says he talked to a lot of people before hand. I have a strong suspicion these were the (3-4) friends of his that had just recently divorced. In fact our 1 night off together he was hanging out with his divorced friend instead of me. When I complained, I was controlling and preventing him from seeing friends.

Now I villify him to get through this because really I have not had Any control of this situation and must focus on how bad he was too me. The only thing that will upset him is paying me. How sad.